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 So it's Valentine's Day. Right. It's funny how different the ideology behind it is here and in Finland, even though I guess we got it from the same source. In Finland it's called Friend's Day. And that is a lot more user-friendly concept. I mean, Valentine's Day as it here is, with all the cute girlfriend-boyfriend-lover stuff, it excludes a big chunk of the people, leaving them more lonely than ever with all the pink balloons and chocolate boxes around. Not just singles, but also widows and widowers (I never remember which one is which) and the people who's loved one is far away, and I'm sure a lot of other situations I can't even think about. But there they are, feeling slightly or more miserable. I decided to avoid that.

I think it is most important to remember that there's one person who should be your best friend, who you're going to have to spend all the rest of your life with, and that's yourself. They say that the Western culture is all about yourself, but this is different. When have you last time sat down, bought a huge bar of chocolate and done absolutely nothing, or done something really exciting you've always wanted to try? That's what I'm planning - enjoying the independence of being just me and not a part of a couple, watch some Doctor Who, eat a lot of chocolate, indulge myself. Avoid doing homework, avoid going somewhere just because I have to, lie in bed all day if I feel like it. Because knowing how to be with yourself is extremely important, and when you know that, you'll never feel completely alone, because it doesn't bother you. Buy yourself a balloon and wear that with pride. Don't let yourself feel ashamed by it. I mean, it does need a lot of attitude to, say, go out to eat by yourself - you easily get pitied by other people. But it's not a pity thing. Because this life is not only about finding a lover. It could be said that this world is about finding the right lover, but that's also a task in which your skills don't matter, so it's not a fault in you if you haven't found him/her yet. It'll come. Meanwhile, love what you have - yourself and those dear to you.

As I said, in Finland this is called Friend's Day. Have a wonderful day, all my friends!